In my first column, I wrote about aging with intent. That phrase has become the mission behind this whole platform. But aging with intent isn’t just about getting older gracefully. It’s about giving yourself the license to realign, reinvent, and make changes that move you closer to the life you actually want.
For me, that process began with my family. After I retired from my job two years ago and we made the huge decision to move to Virginia, I needed to feel that my children were stable and happy, moving in the right direction.
My two sons, who have disabilities, needed to feel purposeful. They had jobs before we moved, and I wanted to make sure they would be able to work here. That took a while. One of them is employed, and the other is in the vocational system, receiving assessments and training. Hopefully, he will be employed soon. My youngest son had two years of high school left. Now, we are preparing to move him into college in the next couple of weeks.
That might sound like a goal for them rather than for me, but I knew that if their lives felt steady, mine would too. That foundation gave me the grounding I needed to think about my future.
I tend to function that way. Years of training taught me how to tackle big challenges: make a plan, outline the steps, and execute. It’s not always a quick process. It takes resilience and patience.
And once all of that was in place, I started to feel something else: restlessness.
Restlessness shows up when part of your life feels unresolved. The routines that once felt normal begin to feel heavy or irritating, as though time is slipping away. When I had stretches of free time, I would feel like there was something I should be doing. I’m one of those people whose leg shakes when I’m done with something. My leg was shaking something fierce.
You can sense that there’s something more out there — but you haven’t named it yet. For me, it was the pull back toward writing, a passion I’ve carried for years, and the idea of creating something meaningful that could reach beyond myself.
That’s how My Jungle Rules and Not Done Yet were born — not from a desire to start a “media company,” but from the need to do work that mattered and to connect with others walking a similar path.
But figuring out what you want isn’t always easy. I’ve often found it’s less about what I want to do, and more about how I want to feel. Do I want to feel grounded? Inspired? Connected? Free? Once I answer that, the next step becomes clearer.
When I was in college, I was engaged for the first time. We broke up. I was heartbroken. A mentor gave me advice that stayed with me: Visualize the partner you want, and don’t settle for anything less. I did, and it worked. I found Steve. I married Steve. Steve’s mine.
That advice stays with me. Visualization is powerful. Picture the life you want, the relationship you want, the feeling you want. Hold onto that vision, and then take the steps to make it real — whether that’s having a hard conversation, signing up for a class, picking up a new habit, or carving out time for yourself.
The steps don’t have to be perfect. They can be small or big, slow or fast. What matters is that you give yourself permission to start. Again, it’s not always a quick process. Sometimes, it takes patience.
I have a friend who retired from her executive-level corporate position and now splits her time between corporate training, jewelry making, and sea glass art. I love it. If you ask her, she’ll tell you: Do your own thing. Her choices also allow her to spend weeks at a time with her family in another state. These choices came after a health ordeal. Sometimes clarity comes at the scariest times of our lives. I don’t think that’s a coincidence.
Because aging with intent isn’t about settling. It’s about deciding how you want to feel, and then making changes — one step at a time — that move you in that direction.
My forward momentum is about feeling confident in the choices I’m making. I have days of doubt, but I don’t let that define my experience. I accept it as part of the process. The thing is, I know I’m pretty brilliant. 😜 I know I have a reputation for driving success. I can see when everything starts to come together. So far, so good.
— Rindraty Limtiaco is Not Done Yet
Here are a couple of questions for you. Let me know:
👉 Where in your life are you feeling restless right now?
👉 If you visualized the next chapter you want, what would it look like?
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